Things You'll Need: Confidence, Patience
The first step in meeting good, intelligent and respectable women is to
find the places where they reside. An easy place to look is in
churches. However, if you aren't religious, you may want to consider
the grocery store, laundry mat or in the best possible case you should
take classes at the local community college.
Look for the signs that she's interested and talk to her. Good signs
are when they play with their hair, they look at you and look away when
you look, they smile when you look at them or they make a comment to
you out of nowhere. When you are given the opportunity to talk
to a woman you must always take it. If they bump into you with their
cart, make a joke about the traffic and try to start up a conversation.
In Step 1 I mentioned classes as a good way to meet women. When
you have a class with a woman, she automatically has something in
common with you. Therefore, you automatically have a reason to talk to
her. Between classes, be sure to scope out the library. If you see a
woman you're interested in and you have a class with her, simply walk
right up to her and start talking about how hard the class is, how easy
the class is, how stupid the teacher is or ask for help. It's easy to
make study buddies. This doesn't guarantee she'll be interested in you,
but the most difficult part of meeting women is talking to them for the
first time and establishing whether there is a rapport or not.
The next step is to find out if they have a significant other.
Sometimes they will simply slip it into conversation to let you know.
Other times they may intentionally leave it out because though they
have a man, they are somewhat interested in you and do not want you to
know. A good tip off is when they mention their ex.
A couple of simple questions you can ask without embarrassment are:
"Got any big plans for the weekend?"
This
question can give you a lot of information without being obvious.
Generally, a woman's "big plans" will include her man at some point
during the weekend. If the answer is "no" then inquire as to why? This
could be a good opportunity to ask her if she would like to come with
you and some friends or just the two of you (if you're brave enough).
"I bet your boyfriend really loves . . ."Slipping
the assumption that she has a boyfriend into the conversation is a
surefire way to find out. However, this method is a little more
straight forward and you're probably giving yourself away if you ask
this. If she smiles at this question and says "I don't have a
boyfriend," or "If I had a boyfriend, he may," then you should probably
step back for a few minutes and move in for the kill by inviting her
out.
"Do you have a boyfriend?"This is the straight
forward method. It's either yes or no and your intentions are 100%
clear. If she responds with the proper
body language(smile, pouty lip) then you may be in. If she responds with "I just got
out of a long relationship," then ask about it, but back off for the
time being. This one may not be worth it.
Ask her out.
Whether or not it's clear cut, you eventually have
to weather the storm and ask her out. Group dates are easy ways to
break the ice and there's little pressure. Once she agrees on
the date, make plans ahead of time. Get directions to her place, her
phone number and decide what time you will pick her up.
DO NOT. . I
repeat DO NOT give her your number yet. You don't want to give her the
opportunity to cancel. Even women that like you will have second
thoughts and cancel from time to time. Don't ask me to explain it. I
don't get it either. Simply call when you are about halfway to her
place and let her know you're on your way. It's difficult to cancel at
that point.
Be yourself. Don't put on a facade to impress her. Don't lie about who
you are. Be honest. If she likes you, then that's great. If she
doesn't, then it's a good thing you know early.
